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Marriage: Girls being urged to get married

What kind of marriage are girls looking for? Jane Austen would say it should be full of love as well as calm. It is well accepted by the youth nowadays that marriage is the product of love, a crowning event of later adulthood.

However, in China, there is a unique social phenomenon that a large number of people are being urged to get married by their parents and the whole society. When the young people are around thirty years old, most parents and even their relatives will show great concern over the issue and push them to get married harshly, taking marriage as the incomparable thing of their children’s, much more important than jobs or education or everything else. The most common method parents use is The Blind Date, where one man and one woman never met each other before will be paired by an intermediary agent called the matchmaker. The two in The Blind Date have the right to refuse the other person but without the right to stop their parents’ push until they finally get married.

At the same time, the worried parents tend to brainwash their kids of the necessity and tremendous urgency of the marriage. For sons, there are words like “ You should marry someone to take care of you and have a baby quickly”, while for girls, “You are becoming a leftover lady”, “ You will have little choice with age”, and the common words for both like, “it’s unfilial for you to not marry”.

Worried parents and brainwash are ready for both male and female, yet female is more likely to be pushed more fiercely. From a female point of view, a girl has been taught how to take care of her husband and kids as a good wife from childhood,and at the marriageable age, she is expected to be a good wife quickly by everyone around her. If she decides to be single, then there will be guesses that she may be with the defect. Oceanic news describes single female as the gold digger or picky people while no male is blamed with such words. And if she remains unmarried she will be called as the leftover lady as if she is a terrible dish that is meaningless.

There are a few reasons why girls are being urged to get married which can be classified as two parts, social pressure and female opposition.